Surely this is the year
We put our skins of fear aside
They are already well flayed and comfortable to wear
And step into
Shoes that do not yet fit
But if we hold on
Shaking in place
Tempted to turn and run
Back to the oppressive we know so well
If we learn to be
This new size
These new shoes
Lending us the necessary dexterity
To skip away from excuses
Vanquish the tendency
To think we only have
One mark on this Earth
And cannot instead
Inherit the wind
We stay in that diminished moment
Growing cold though the sun shines
You have to satisfy yourself
Fill in the edges
Pick your ink
Color the world
You have to lift yourself up
Nobody else can love you as much
From the cradle to the grave
There’s one friend who won’t leave
If you learn to stop hating yourself
Is an elixir
Be it in your arms
The first time we danced
Or from your house
The last time I looked back
And as we leave pieces of ourselves
Like a photo album of torn skin
We are surely moving forward
On the surface I may not seem like much but I have always held this truth;
“Be the change you want to see” (Gandhi)
That means be the friend you would like to have.
I used to be the typical teenager, self-involved, over-sensitive. I thought I was being a good friend but looking back I can see some easy mistakes I made such as always putting my feelings first and not being able to empathize enough with others.
Now that I’m a bit more empathetic I really try, but I must admit it has been hard to make friends as an ‘adult’ because so often people lie and let you down.
More than anything I wish I had friends where I live now, when I moved to America I really lost the ones I left behind, as distance tends to do that, and I didn’t make new ones. I know I should ‘join a club’ but I’m an introvert and that’s really hard for me to do.
Friendship is so underestimated and one reason adults can be lonely especially if like me they don’t have kids.
I would never treat a friend badly and I really don’t understand those who do. Even on WP I have had some people mistreat me, those days are over, I’m too guarded now, which really if you think about it, is a shame.
If we all treated others as we would wish to be treated and we were HONEST the world would be so much better. Period.